Don’t Get Stuck on the Negative Replay

I think we can agree that your home life, acquaintances and environment during your youth were the backbone of most the choices you have made up to now. It’s likely your parent(s)/caregiver(s) shared a sickness with you. Something destructive from their childhood they brought into your relationship. Maybe even passed it on to you. When your childhood is traumatic or dramatic it’s easy as we grow to become bitter and begin to focus on the negative parts of life. Instead of staying stuck on the negative replay see if you can redirect your focus and energy on the positives from now and then. You may have to search outside your immediate family. Friend, co-worker, teacher, acquaintances. Possibly even a one time encounter with a stranger that made a impression. These are the things you need to put your focus towards to start you on the path to a healing transformation. Mama always said practice makes perfect (her mama probably said it to her). The more you exercise this choice the faster it will become another daily habit. On this path you will start to learn that like you your parents are people first and foremost. Every person has a what if. Most of us have a few. Realizing this makes it a bit easier to put youself in their shoes and maybe forgive. Not forget these are two different things. The best part of this journey is when you start to become friends with your younger self again. Creating unison with mind and soul. Thus allowing your desires to resurface. This is how you move forward. The only person that knows what that looks like is you. Just remember while on this journey, really any journey, always leave some time for any forgivness you owe youself.