We have discussed where you focus energy and the importance of. Your childhood and how it helped shape the person you are. Attitude, evolving, adapting, faith, struggles, confidence. What makes you live and not meerly exsist. Making the unexpected work for you and finding inner peace. Lets take it a step further and talk about who’s in your circle. Who you keep as constants in your life. Your support and grow with group. Why do they have the honor of being a part of it with you? Is the relationship helpful or harmful? I know you have heard/seen the quote ” You become what you surround yourself with. Energies are contagious. Choose carefully. Your enviroment will become you”. It can’t be put in more lamens terms. You are what you surround yourself with. We’re not talking about co-workers or the people you see at PTA. We are talking that small circle that you keep close. The ones you have good rapport with. So lets observe the obvious. If you have low self-esteem, lack pride in appearance and work ethic you are oozing negativity out of every pore. This will be your circle. Negative energy (that nobody needs), low self-esteem causing a lack of self confidence (so they can’t help you find yours) and no drive ( like attracts like). Yes people who have found their worth and believe in themselves will occasionally come into your circle. After a while their spirit will become to restless for them to stay. They know the only way to switch your negativity to positive is you. If you aren’t in the phase of change then they will have to move on. They can’t risk getting stuck in your enviroment again. They know how prominent the powerf of energy and thoughts are. They know what it’s like to truly live. Anyone who has overcame their demons and found this bliss won’t give it up for anyone. Let’s say you loose every close person you have. You end up with a spell completely alone. Embrace it. It will take a minute . Remind yourself it is better to have a learning/growing season without a circle than it is to have a stagnant circle breeding one anothers negativity. If you haven’t already you will soon see we are fully responsible for what our exsistence is and have (almost) complete control over it. Think back on a time you got a new pair of shoes, handbag or outfit you had been wanting. All of the sudden it seems everyone around you had the same idea. What about when you decided to have a baby. It seemed like someone had let the baby parade go. You saw babies everywhere. They were always there they just weren’t prelevant to your pshyci until now. We call in everything we recieve whether we admit it or not. Take time and observe your circle. Remind yourself when you doubt moving forward that you are not helping them either by keeping the relationship. Choose wisely.
70 Days in to transitioning with mom
It’s getting better. I have to remind myself this is her home and she has lived alone in it for decades. Keep respect yet know my adult worth and expect it. Yes even from my mother. Working on putting my (new) routine with the old and maintaining until it becomes a habit. Life will never be easy but it is definetly worth the blessings.
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