March 29th, 2023
This weeks takeaway from our book ” Let That Sh*T Go” is to make sure you are prepared for the things in life that engulf you; knock you off your feet. When they come, don’t give up! Follow through the hard work the process brings. What you recieve after is priceless and undiscribable. These are the times in life, no matter how positive you are, they are going to take a minute and hard work to bounce back from. Taking away your mental ability to think correctly. Burning you and all your energy out. Things that require a grieving process of what was so you can heal and move on to what will ( or can ) become.
DEATH
DIVORCE
JOB LOSS
FINANCE CHANGES
MARRIAGE
A CHILD
MOVING
CHRONIC ILLNESS
EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS
*If you already struggle with anxiety these traumas will be even harder to work through. Some people have a real phobia of engulfment. This is a fear of being controlled, dominated, or “losing themselves” in a relationship. This fear sometimes is a effect of growing up in a emeshed family. A trait of family dysfunction; involving poorly defined or non exsistent boundaries, unhealthy relationship patterns and a lack of independance among family members. According to http://www.oline-therepy.com some signs of enmeshment are
*You prioritize other peoples needs first; never prioritizing yourself
*You don’t have boundaries because you avoid confrintation even if its unhealthy for you
*You lack a sense of self; you don’t know who you are or what you want when asked.
http://www.psychcentral.com says there are four components of revising enmeshment and becoming a healthier, more authentic you.
- Set boundaries, learning to set boundaries is imperative if you are going to change enmeshed relationships
- Discover who you are. Enmeshment prevents you from from developing a stong sense of self
- Stop feeling guilty
- Have/Get support
All of these are key to being able to grieve and live life enjoyably. No looking back. The past is the past for a reason, its said and done, over. What happened was what you needed at the time. You learn from it and keep pushing on. Embrace the now, focus, set goals, move forward. Deal with it now, or deal with it later, but its going to be there until you do. When you start to feel overwhelmed stop and regroup, allowinig your energy tank to refil. It can be something as big as a mini vacation, visiting Whatever you know works for you and fits in your time frame. Life is going to hand you challenging times. Keeping a positive attitude is the key to have when the sh*t hits the fan. Knowing when you need to stop and take time to recharge is vital. Believing in yourself, even more important. Bringing you closer to your bliss and being a example the world needs more of.
The childrens books are teaching them and me new things about how they feel. Right now they are still getting the techniques down. I am excited for where this is going to go.
Been living with mom over half a year now (I know crazy right)!
What’s to come is God’s will. Whatever it is i think we will be one happy family forever wherever that will be. I have to say you think you have discovered yourself and then you see you are no where near the end. All of this has to mean something so i am going to do my best to be the greatest me i can be.
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