02-27-2024
How do we not get stuck if we aren’t 180% checked in with ourselves is more the question that needs to be asked. For the first decade and a half or so we get a bye. All we are responsible for is noticing what brings us excitement and joy. At first you were introduced only to your inner circles beliefs, traditions and mindsets. We will be generous and say this makes up a good 50% of where you put your time and who you were. Then you branched out and you started your own circle of peers. We will alot this 9%. Now you add a career or partner. That’s easily 35%. Seeing the pattern here? You are already at 94%. You have 6% open and we haven’t even touched on children, nieces, nephews, clients etc….. This is how you get stuck! Telling yourself it must be done on the daily. . Reality, no it really doesn’t. Well let me rephrase that . Yes, things need to be done but in a slightly different way. One where you are first. Allowing you to not only be a positive example for others but show them bliss is possible. You will actually find everything and more gets done, with less stress on everyone. Your enviroment largely programed you. However, now that you are older, been educated and have had the opportunities to view options other than what you were raised with and around, you can deprograme and recode a new outcome. The best part is the only one in control of the outcome and able to accomplish this is you. Now back to when i said in the first decade and a half the only responsibility you had was noticing what excited and brought you joy. Let’s take a little trip down memory lane. When you were growing up……..
1) Did you enjoy being inside or outside more? Were the sounds and smells of home and the dimness of the indoor lighting soothing or did you need the music of wildlife and the smells of nature to bring your happy back? Was family time enjoyable? Were you home alone a lot? Did you have more responsibilities than most? Was your family large? Did you thrive outside making it the best way to allow you to think clearer? Did you go barefoot or wear shoes? Was it your choice? Did you feel exhilerated when a thunder storm was coming or did you like the predictability and safeness of the sun?
2) Were you social or did the thought of having to go to school make your stomach turn? Why? Did you fear embaresment? Did you believe you had no value so you wouldn’t be accepted? Did you even know why? is it possible that thought was instilled in you by someone you believed at their word? Maybe you jumped up every morning excited to tell your friends about the events of the night before and listen to theirs.
3) Were you going to live the remainder of your life in your hometown or were you getting out the first chance you got? Why? Did you feel important/noticed/valued at home? Did you feel a pull to take your uses and share them with the world? Have a plan of all you were going to do and accomplish? Exoected to take over the family business? Just never was sure what the best choice was so you didn’t make one? fell in love?
4) Did you have a fashion style you prefered? Even if you never got to wear it were you aware of what appealed to you and what didn’t? Were you made to wear what you were told making you stop paying attention becaused it seemed out of your reach to be given permission to have what you wanted? Did that hesitancy of insecurity kick in and make you follow the crowd and stick with the trends?
5) Did you have friends over often, stay at their house or keep social time limited to only school? Why? Was home a unsafe place to bring others? Were your guardians to strict, not strict? Were your siblings cruel? Did you have a reason that made you uncomftorable to be away from home? Stayed away every chance you got? Maybe you or your friends had more things to get into and thats how you chose?
6) How did you get along with younger children? Great, because they were innocent, fun and made you laugh and created good feelings/memories? Did it make you feel special because they were attentive to you, making you feel important? Did the amount of care they required annoy you and make you want to be anywhere else at that moment? Was it hard to relate because of their lack of intellegince? Did you run to or away from them?
7) How was your class participation? Did you involve yourself in discussions and try to find interest in the subject or did you sit as close to the back as possible and pray you weren’t called on until the bell rang? Did you struggle? Feared being called on and not knowing the correct answer? Maybe you struggled but you didn’t care if you got it wrong or not, you just needed to be involved? Maybe you would eventually “get it”. What else did you have to do .Sit in the back of the class hoping nobody noticed you never crossing your mind.
8) Did you help other family members and loved ones with projects or was it a every man for himself home? Were you a every man for himself person and your circle wasn’t? Did you feel you had value to add or did you fear failure and cheer from the sidelines and praise when completed?
9) Did you acquire random hobbies/projects out of your own curioustiy along your way? Just because curiousity got the best of you. Possibly you thought it might be something you would be good at and could teach others later.
10) Did you become programmed to be a people pleaser or a you pleaser?
Look back and really think about these questions. Add to them. Remember you have to sift through all factors, not just the reason you made the choice.
Maybe you didn’t wear shoes, but maybe it was because you didn’t have them to wear unless you weant “out”. Maybe you do remember spending a large portion of time outside, but did you have a large family and just enjoyed getting away. Were you made to go outside until dinner time? Did you not have any idea of what fashion you like because you were never allowed to choose. All things have to be considered. Now, if you felt excitement and exhilerhation when you knew a storm was coming that excited you. Others can place fear and confusion in us but not excitement. That one shows up only when a light bulb goes off that says ohhhhh i like that. As time goes it will be eaven easier to notice. The consant theme you will start to see is self-awarness grows self-assurance creating self-esteem. Giving you the desire to run towards what you fear because you know if you face it first it can’t harm you. You also learn there is always something pleasurable at the end. Even if it’s just the feeling of accomplishment. Which might i say is a pretty amazeballs feeling that everyone should experience at least once. This task is hard for adults. Even ones that never struggle in their youth but life still beat them down. Trying to make us believe we are all the same. There are no distinct differences about us. This is why we live in a society of unsatisfied, scared, depressed people who in large part have given up and truly believe they make no difference whether they are here or not. This is so far from the truth and it is up to you to find out what those gifts are that make you fit in the puzzle. How wonderful if we could all figure out what part we are. Maybe it would be a huge peace sign. Peace is what you will find when you find out who you are, what drives you and what you were put here to do.
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