Sometimes Lifes Just Sh*ty

March 29th, 2023

This weeks takeaway from our book ” Let That Sh*T Go” is to make sure you are prepared for the things in life that engulf you; knock you off your feet. When they come, don’t give up! Follow through the hard work the process brings. What you recieve after is priceless and undiscribable. These are the times in life, no matter how positive you are, they are going to take a minute and hard work to bounce back from. Taking away your mental ability to think correctly. Burning you and all your energy out. Things that require a grieving process of what was so you can heal and move on to what will ( or can ) become.

DEATH

DIVORCE

JOB LOSS

FINANCE CHANGES

MARRIAGE

A CHILD

MOVING

CHRONIC ILLNESS

EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS

*If you already struggle with anxiety these traumas will be even harder to work through. Some people have a real phobia of engulfment. This is a fear of being controlled, dominated, or “losing themselves” in a relationship. This fear sometimes is a effect of growing up in a emeshed family. A trait of family dysfunction; involving poorly defined or non exsistent boundaries, unhealthy relationship patterns and a lack of independance among family members. According to http://www.oline-therepy.com some signs of enmeshment are

*You prioritize other peoples needs first; never prioritizing yourself

*You don’t have boundaries because you avoid confrintation even if its unhealthy for you

*You lack a sense of self; you don’t know who you are or what you want when asked.

http://www.psychcentral.com says there are four components of revising enmeshment and becoming a healthier, more authentic you.

  1. Set boundaries, learning to set boundaries is imperative if you are going to change enmeshed relationships
  2. Discover who you are. Enmeshment prevents you from from developing a stong sense of self
  3. Stop feeling guilty
  4. Have/Get support

All of these are key to being able to grieve and live life enjoyably. No looking back. The past is the past for a reason, its said and done, over. What happened was what you needed at the time. You learn from it and keep pushing on. Embrace the now, focus, set goals, move forward. Deal with it now, or deal with it later, but its going to be there until you do. When you start to feel overwhelmed stop and regroup, allowinig your energy tank to refil. It can be something as big as a mini vacation, visiting Whatever you know works for you and fits in your time frame. Life is going to hand you challenging times. Keeping a positive attitude is the key to have when the sh*t hits the fan. Knowing when you need to stop and take time to recharge is vital. Believing in yourself, even more important. Bringing you closer to your bliss and being a example the world needs more of.

The childrens books are teaching them and me new things about how they feel. Right now they are still getting the techniques down. I am excited for where this is going to go.

Been living with mom over half a year now (I know crazy right)!
What’s to come is God’s will. Whatever it is i think we will be one happy family forever wherever that will be. I have to say you think you have discovered yourself and then you see you are no where near the end. All of this has to mean something so i am going to do my best to be the greatest me i can be.

LIFES NOT ALWAYS GOING TO BE EASY

M ARCH 22nd 2023

This week in our book “Let That Shi*t Go” we focus on being ready for the things in life that engulf us; break us down. Follow through all the emotions of the process because thats where you find the good stuff. There will be times in life, no matter how positive and together you are., that are going to knock you down for a bit and take a minute to recover from. They engulf you and cause your energy tank to burn out. These things require a mourning process of what was and an opening (if you are willing ) of what could be.

DEATH OF A LOVED ONE DIVORCE JOB LOSS FINACIAL CHANGES MARRIAGE BIRTH OF A CHILD MOVING CHRONIC ILLNESS EMOTIONAL DISTURBANCES

These are a few events that are life changing. Any change brings angst, as it should. It’s unfamiliar and scary. But until you try and continue to try it will never become normalcy.

(www.verywellmind.com) Not to mention if you are one of the many people who struggle staying positive or have a fear of engulfment then you have a even larger challenge to overcome. Fear of engulfment is a fear of being controlled, dominated, or “losing themselves” in a relationship. This fear often comes ffrom growing up ihn a an emeshed family. A trait of family dysfunction, that involves poorly defined or non exsistent boundaries. Unhealthy relationship patterns and a lack of independence among family members.

(www.online-therapy.com) SIGNS OF ENMESHMENT:

  • YOU PRIORITIZE OTHER PEOPLES NEEDS FIRST
  • YOU ISOLAGTE YOURSELF FROM OTHER RELATIONSHIPS
  • YOU DON’T HAVE BOUNDARIES
  • YOU HAVE DIFFICULTY DIFFINTIATING BETWEEN YOUR EMOTIONS AND OTHERS
  • YOU FIND DISAGREMENS DIFFICULT
  • YOU LACK A SENSE OF SELF

According to http://www.psychcentral.com there are four components of revising enmeshment and becoming a healthier, more authentic you.

  1. Set boundaries, learning to set boundaries is imperative if you are going to change enmeshment relationships
  2. Discover who you are. Enmeshment prevents you from developing a strong osense of self
  3. Stop feeling guilty
  4. Get Good Support All these things are key in grieving and in life. Don’t look back thinking about what could have been. Yesterday is gone but today is yours for the taking . Feeling sorry for oneself never accomplished anything good. Embrace the now and what can be, focus, set goals and move forward. Do it now instead of having to deal with it later. When you become so overwhelmed and you cant take it anymore it’s time to take a break and fill your energy tank back up. It can be as big as a mini vaca, sleepover with a girlfriend, dinner and a movie. The old standby will always be a hot bath and a good book. Whatever relaxes you and re-fills your energy tank and allows you to recenter. Throughout life you are going to have difficult tasks. Having a positive attitude and a good support group is key for when the sh*t hits the fan. Knowing when you have had enough and who you are. You got this and it will bring you one step closer to your bliss

GROW YOUR BRAIN

MARCH 15th, 2023

A huge thank you to everyone who participated in picking our next book to review and entered the book giveaway drawing. Congratulations to Bettie Davis Wall (Get Untamed – Glennon Doyle) and Nancy Saylor (Burn After Writting – Sharon Jones)for winning the book drawing. I will be getting these in the mail to you soon ladies. I know you will be as intrigued as i was from the turn of the first page to the last. For the winner from the book pick i will be reviewing you overwhelmingly picked “Let That Sht Go” (Author Monica Sweeney). I can’t wait to start so i can share with all of you. Books broaden your horizons. They provide knowledge and insight to things you might not otherwise be exposed to. Opening you up to new thoughts. Taking you places and introducing you to diverse groups of people. Whether a self help book that peaks your curiousity, a educational book that inspires you, or just a regular read where you get to put yourself in the characters position, bringing their emotions to your surface. All of which make you think. Thinking is what causes growth. This is what books are supposed to do. Why they are written. To make you evaluate and regroup. Like the old saying goes “You learn something new everyday”, or at least you should be. The best books in my opinion are the ones you can’t put down and when you do all you can think about is what’s going to happen next. I enjoy learning so the majority of my purchases are self – help to educate me and help me grow. Every once in a while i enjoy curling up with a good non-fiction. It doesn’t matter what your genre is. As long as you are reading your expanding your brain. Best of all when you are growing it’s impossible to become stagnant. Happiness is a mindset you choose to do on a daily basis. At times a minute by minute situation. Point being, positivity and encouragment of self, that allows pride when goals are reached are what give you peace. Whatever you are searching for there is a book that will help you begin a path plan to reach it. First weeks excercise (Let That ShT Go – A Journal For Leaving Your Bullsh*t Behind And Creating A Happy Life – Monica Sweeney) Right out the gate, on the very first page. Acknowledge the things that make you feel like shit. Sometimes this can be as eye opening and rewarding in the healing process as finding your needs. You have to face fears on this journey of self growth to your happiness. Might as well get it over with straight from the start.
I apologize for the no-post week. My husband had a health scare. Turns out he has SVT (supraventricular tachycardia). Easily fixable. But to recieve the diagnosis he earned himself a little hospital vaca. All is well. He has a clean bill of health other than that and scheaduling surgery to fix it. We are thankful for our blessings and cozy back at home with mama. Remember if there is a book you would like reviewed or want a book prescription email me @ BrokenWingSociety@mail.com

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GET YOUR HAPPY ON

MARCH 1ST, 2023

Hope everyone enjoyed the book reviews last week. Find anything relatable? Have you ever purchased a book to help you with something? Did it help? Do you have a favorite? There are some books that have made such impressions on me i often give them as gifts. All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten (Robert Fulghum), The Five People You Meet In Heaven (Mitch Albom), The Secret (Rhonda Byrne), Love Dare (Stephen Kendrick & Alex Kendrick), Are You There God It’s Me Margaret (Judy Blume) to name a few. Books are supposed to affect, inspire and excite you. Taking you away and at times being a personal therapist in the solitude of your own comfort zone, at your pace. I’m so excited about the response to Friday’s giveaway. The two books i have chosen are ones you will want to pull off the shelf again and again. I’m sure they will be added to my list. “Get Untamed Journal” Author Glennon Doyle & “Burn After Writting” Author Sharon Jones are two thought provoking books. If you are looking to rekindle you and aren’t sure where to start you will know at the end of the read who you are and what you want/need. Through the excercises you will answer questions that are simple but have got forgotten in the day to day rush. You will write letters to yourself and others for past, present and future. Many questions requiring only one word answers or multiple choice so you don’t get frustrated and want to give up. You want to keep turning the pages to see what it will ask of you next. When you have completed you won’t be ready to take on the world (or maybe you will be) but you will have a solid start to the beggining of a blueprint. As I mentioned in last weeks post two of my grandmiracles are doing the “Anxiety in Teens” Author Regine Galanti PhD & “The Mindfulness Workbook” Author Hannah Sherman LCSW. As they journey through i will be sharing the results. If the books are productive when we finish i will be giving them away. Don’t forget to turn in your suggestion for the next book you want me to review. So far “Let That Sh*T Go” Author Monica Sweeney is at the top of the list with “Present, Not Perfect” Author Aimee Chase in second place. All four books:

  1. Couples Therapy Workbook for Healing (Author Lori Cluff Schade PhD LMFT)
  2. Let That Sh*t Go (Author Monica Sweeney)II
  3. Present, Not Perfect (Author Aimee Chase)
  4. The CBT Workbook for Mental Health (Author Simon A. Regd PsyD & Sarah Fader

If you have a book you would like me to review private message me on facebook (Audrey Rebecca Hart) or Email me at BrokenWingSociety@mail.com. I love suggestions. I also offer for $35.00 a list of 8 books i will review. You fill out a brief questiolnare that helps me narrow down what will work best with your needs. $65.00 we can discuss a little more personally and you are able to ask questions with a face to face session via the internet. Start healing with Literature so you can find your happy and show the world your beautiful smile. YOU DESERVE IT!

POST 55

HEAL YOURSELF

PART ll – FEBUARY 23, 2023

COUPLES THERAPY WORKBOOK – EMT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) EMT is built on practicle, concise steps for recognizing and disrupting negative behaviour patterns. Using these principles the workbook helps you develop tools to approach your relationship with curiousity, open mindedness. Readiness to speak, listen and heal. A three part process offering insightful questions, excercises, self assesments and even case studies from other couples who have had success with this technique.

2) LET THAT SH*T GO Harboring grudges and plotting revenge takes a lot of energy. Energy that can be used elsewhere. You will find moments of profanity-laced catharsis and joy through journaling. Learning to let go of the bullsh*t and lift your spirits higher.

3) PRESENT, NOT PERFECT

Most of us today run around, frantic, and get lost in an endless cycle of busyness. This journal cuts to the heart of the problem by showing you how to reconnect with your inner-self. Using solitude, interespection and contomplation of what’s truly important. Giving yourself permission to be present not perfect.

*4) GET UNTAMED

Written by Glennon Doyle after she herself had a revolation and transformation. Untamed has been described as a “Wake up Call”. Glennon offers a new way of journaling, one that reveals how you can stop striving to meet others expectations – because when we finally learn that satisfying the world is impossible we quit pleasing and start living. Whether or not you have read Untamed, this journal leads you to back to your true self, and begin to trust, your own inner-voice. Full of thought provoking excercises. Glennon guides you through the process of examing the parts of your life that make you feel caged. Her method for uprooting culturally-constructed ideas show you how to rediscover yourself. Learn what needs to be kept and what you need to burn so you can build a life by design not by default. A one-of-a-kind journal experience. Get Untamed proves Glennon’s philosophy that “imagination is not where we go to escape reality, but where we go to remember it.”

5) THE CBT WORKBOOK FOR MENTAL HEALTH

Not every mental health struggle involves a horrific tragedy or an official diagnosis, but that doesn’t mean it can’t take a toll on your life and therefore your happiness. This workbook shows you how to cultivate your sense of calm and confidence through the power of cognitive behavioural therapy. With expert advice, you will learn how to use CBT to bounce back from your tough times – no matter how big or .small. Featuring Specific Solutions: Build a range of coping skills with chapters devoted to Common Issues: Relationships, communication, anxiety, anger, stress, guilt, shame, cravings and self – esteem Simple Excercises – The prompts and excersises in this CBT Workbook only take between 10-30 minutes, so you can find time to practice them even on your busiest of days. CBT is for EVERYONE.

6*) BURN AFTER WRITTING

National Bestseller – Write. Born. Repeat. Instagram, WhatsApp, Snapchat, Tik Tok, VSCO, You Tube, the world has not only become one giant feed, but also one giant confessional. Burn After Writting allows you to spend less time scrolling and more time self-reflecting. Through incisive questions and thought experiments, this journal helps you learn new things while letting others go. Imagine instead of publicly declaring your feelings for others your privately declared your feelings for yourself? Help your heart and soul by turning off the comments and muting the accounts that drive you into jealousy for a few moments a night. Whether you are going through the ups and downs fo growing up, or know a few young people who are, you will flourish by finding free expression – even if through a few tears. PUSH your limits, reflect on your past, present and future, and create a secret book that’s about you, and just for you. This is not a diary, and there is no posting required. And when you’re finished, toss it, hide it, or burn it after writting. Up to you.

7) ANXIETY RELIEF FOR TEENS

Essential CBT Skills and Mindfulness Practices to Overcome Anxiety and Stress. With the many worries teens and even preteens face it’s caused higher anxiety to the mix. With Anxiety Relief for Teens, Dr. Regine Galanti teaches how CBT Skills and Mindfulness Techniques can help you manage your anxiety and reverse/stop negative patterns. Through simple and effective excercises that help you change your thoughts, behaviors, and physical reactions, this helpful guide gives you the tools they need to navigate all of lifes challenges. This book features: Quizzes and Self – assesments: To help better understand their anxiety and emotions and discover their respective triggers.

30+ CBT – Based Tools: To help them manage their anxiety along the way with practical strategies for dealing with challenging emotions such as anger and sadness.

30+ Mindfulness Practices: To help cope with their anxiety in the present moment through visualizations, breathing, meditation, and other excercises.

Last but not least #8 – Mindfulness Workbook for Kids (ages 8-12)

60+ activities to focus, stay calm, and make good choices. Helping kids overcome challenges, take care of big feelings, and learn from their experiences and the world around them. Providing fun excercises and strategies to help find focus, develop coping skills and handle tough situations. Your child will start their mindfulness journey with practical tools thyat help them act with kindness toward themselves and others, live with greater positivity and joy, and deal with common issues like impulsivness, anxiety and concentration.

All of these are highly rated books well worth the read. #4 & #6 are the two i have personally read. I had read the Get Untamed book and figured the journal would not dissapoint. It was a comftorable choice as well because i felt i knew a little about it. She challenges you to really think with thought provoking questions to ask yourself that deal with past, present and future. It is 224 pages, but well worth every turn. She has inspirational quotes and personal stories scattered throughout. Highly recommended. It Didn’t dissapoint. Burn After Writting was my favorite. She hops around, asking quick questions that require short to one word answers. Enlightening you from page 1. Surprisingly, because i struggle making final choices it was fairly simple to answer most. Just the way the book is written and the questions are proposed really helped me figure out a lot about me. And trust me i’ve done a lot of learning. Just a reminder there is always more to learn. There are fast answer pages. Many with two choices for you to choose one or the other. Alot of asking your opinion. By the time you close this book you won’t be ready to take on the world, but you sure will have the tools to start your bluepring of when you decide to. You may choose to use your book to keep your answers in. Because i was giving mine away i put my answers in a notebook. If you do choose to keep your answers in the book i suggest spiral bound. These two books will be given away next week (both paperback). Trust me they were worth every penny ! Two of my grandmiracles have just started “Anxiety Relief For Teens” & ” Mindfulness Workbook for kids (ages 8-12). Depending on the results these may be up for giveaways in the near future. For now out of the Four books left i want you to choose which one comes next.

  1. Couples Therapy – Yes I am married – 34 years this June – 4 amazing and handsome boys and glamparents of 7 beautiful grandmiracles (girlsl & boys).
  2. Let That Sh*t Go
  3. Present, Not Perfect
  4. CBT WORKBOOK FOR MENTAL HEALTH

VOTE ON MY FACEBOOK PAGE: AUDREY REBECCA HART

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PART II OF POST 53

HEAL YOURSELF

FEBRUARY 23, 2023

According to http://www.publishingperspectives.com a short-history of self-help, The worlds Bestselling Genre by Jessica Lamb-shapiro, self help has been around for thoushands of years. The earliest of self-help books was an Ancient Egyptian genre called “Sebayt” an instructional read on life (“Sebayt” means “teaching”). A letter from father to son advising him with help on how to live. The Maxims of Prahotep, written circa 2800 BC., advocated moral behavior and self-control. And theres always the Bible. Although the Ancient Greek philosopher Aristottle is given a lot of credit for the start of self-improvment. The first self-help book was published in 1859. Written by Samuel Smiles. (1812-1904*) The first self-conciously personal-development “self-help” book titled Self Help. Simple and to the point. Now it just doesn’t get better than that. Who better to have started our journey of healing through literature to find your happy than someone with the name smiles. Thank you Samuel for teaching us we can learn to smile. I have compiled a list of 8 books from couples to youth and a little in between. Two of which i have personally done myself and will be giving away next week. There will be the title, author, publisher, pages and where it can be purchased on this post and description of books on the next post. Along with the two i will be giving away.

1)COUPLES THERAPY WORKBOOK FOR HEALING – Emotionally Focused Therapy Techniques To Restore Your Relationship WRITTEN BY: LORI CLUFF SCHADE, PhD, LMFT PUBLISHER: ROCKRIDGE PRESS – 182 PAGES AMAZON – PAPERBACK – $16.68 SPIRAL BOUND – $26.99

2) LET THAT SH*T GO – A Journal For Leaving the Bullsh*t Behind and Creating A Happy Life For Yourself WRITTEN BY: MONICA SWEENEY PUBLISHER: CASTLE POINT BOOKS – 128 PAGES AMAZON – PAPERBACK – $8.99 – SPIRAL BOUND – $22.41

3) PRESENT NOT PERFECT – A Journal For Slowing Down, Letting Go, and Loving Who You Are WRITTEN BY: AIMEE CHASE PUBLISHER: CASTLE POINT BOOKS – 128 PAGES AMAZON – PAPERBACK – $10.29

4) GET UNTAMED – The Journal (How to Quit Pleasing and Start Living) WRITTEN BY: GLENNON DOYLE PUBLISHER: CLARKSON POTTER – 224 PAGES AMAZON – PAPERBACK $9.85 SPIRAL BOUND – $12.94

5) THE CBT WORKBOOK FOR MENTAL HEALTH: Evidence-Based Excercises to Transform Negative Thoughts and Manage Your Wellbeing WRITTEN BY: SIMON A. REGO, PsyD, & SARAH FADER PUBLISHER: ROCKRIDGE PRESS – 200 PAGES AMAZON – PAPERBACK – $12.91 SPIRAL BOUND – $29.99

6) BURN THIS BOOK AFTER WRITTING: (Celestial) A Writting Journal For Self-Healing and Discovery, Questions to ask yourself, Notebook Anti Anxiety For Adults & Teens WRITTEN BY: SHARON JONES PUBLISHED BY: TARCHER PERIGEE – 147 PAGES AMAZON – PAPERBACK – $5.88

7) ANXIETY RELIEF FOR TEENS – Essential CBT Skills and Mindfulness Practices to Overcome Anxiety and Stress WRITTEN BY: REGINE GALANTI, PHD PUBLISHED BY: ZEITOPIST YOUNG ADULT – 170 PAGES AMAZON – PAPERBACK $11.59 SPIRAL BOUND – $19.49

8) MINDFULNESS WORKBOOK – 60+ Activities To Focus, Stay Calm aNd Make Good Choices WRITTEN BY: HANNAH SHERMAN, LCSW PUBLISHED BY: ROCKRIDGE PRESS – 117 PAGES AMAZON – PAPERBACK $11.79 SPIRAL BOUND – $25.99

DESCRIPTIONS AND REVEAL OF THE TWO BOOKS TO BE GIVEN AWAY ON NEXT POST

*WIKIPEDIA

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HOPE & HEALING

FEBRUARY 15, 2023

Hope and Optimism are similiar in nature. Often confused with Positivity,

Hope: A feeling of expectation or desire for a certain thing to happen; a feeling of trust

Optimism: Hopefulness and Confidence about the future or the succesful outcome of something.

Positivity: The practice of being or tendency to be positive or optimistic in attitude.

Hope is a feeling. To have hope optimisim is a must. Positivity is always a plus. Notice the hopefulness and Confidence. This is the recipie for a succesful outcome/future. Both hope and optimisim are mindsets. Ways of thinking and seeing things. Obviously being to narrow minded can cause danger. You must be realistic and constantly check yourself. A positive attitude, hope and optimism are healthy but nothing good comes from overendulgence of anything. The Pro’s list outweighs any negatives. All three have been proven to ensure you live longer, gives you a better immune system (allowing you to fight off illnesses keeping you healthier), allows you to have thriving relationships, you enjoy your time more and the feel better about how you spend it and the best part, less stress. http://www.goodtherapy.org (article title : optimisim) states there are four types of optimisim.

  • Comparable Optimism: A person who tends to believe they are more likely than others to experience positive events.
  • Nihilistic Optimisim: Also reffered to as Optimistic Nihilism; meaningless. Those who subscribe to this belief find hope in nihilism or the idea that life has no intrinsic; essential meaning
  • Unrealistic Optimisim: Unrealistic Optimisim can be contrasted with healthy optomisim. While healthy optimisim may cause a person to take a beneficial amount of risk, unrealistic optimism may cause a person to greatly overestimate facts in their favor, leading them to make potentially unsafe decisions not based in reality.
  • Philosophical Optimism: The opposite of Philisophical Pessimism, philosophical optimism is the belief that the present moment is the best of all possible outcomes. Many connect this idea to the philospher Gotfried Wilhelm Leibniz, who is known for his Principle of the Best (among other things) or the idea that all things happen for the best.

No matter what you use to allow yourself to be hopeful, optomistic and constantly seeking the positive the end result is the same. Who doesn’t want that time to be filled with happy moments, love and laughter? Optimism is learned. A good example and guide is the book ” The Power Of Positive Thinking ” . An international bestseller. #33 in Motivational Self Help (books). It will leave you believing in yourself and what you do. Gives you the ability to reach your goals and assume control over your circumstances. Most important you will learn how to be kind to yourself.

$9.39 @ amazon (paperback)

218 Pages Published by Touchstone

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THE AMAZING POWER OF LITERATURE

FEBRUARY 8th 2023

Knowledge is Power. Education comes from literature. Literature takes you places. Places only your mind may go but these places provide the knowledge. As of 2020 the self help book industry alone had an estimated 10.5 Billion worth. 15,000 self help books are published each year in the US alone. Right at your fingertips to take advantage of. Somebody’s learning something. Learn to silence your mind so you can heal with the help of your soul. Transport yourself to places you never dreamed you could go, physically and literarily. Take notes from these famous Authors:
Stepen King: Books are a uniquely portable magic.
J.K Rowling: I do believe something very magical can happen when you read a book.
Dr.Suess: The more you read, the more things you know. The more you know the more places you will go.
And one of my personal favorites
Maya Angelou: I was so impressed again with life giving power of literature. If i were a young person today, trying to gain a sense of myself in the world, i would do that again by reading, just as i did when i was young.
Books can take you to magical places when you are in need of escape. A good book can get you lost in the black and white ink on its pages. You can become anyone, go anywhere, believe anything, whatever your soul needs. Reading has never had a negative effect on anyone. Knowledge is a must to grow in life. Allowing you to recieve outside opinions to test your ideas against. Creating debates and possible new goals. As Maya Angelou said ” The life giving power of literature”. The right books can help you find your sense of self. Who isn’t looking for that?
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HAPPY vs HAPPINESS

FEBUARY 1st 2023

What does being in a state of happiness mean to you? When you think of do you think of things that bring moments of pleasure or do you vision contentment that grows as you grow. According to a article in Psychologytoday.com, feeling happy and being happy are not the same. Feeling happy is a fleeting feeling; an emotional joy/pleasure. Having happiness is more of a deeper sense of well being, safety, bliss etc. In an article titled “life skills” at http://www.gsgms.org it states scientist have found that the three things that make humans the happiest are:

Pleasure: Doing things you enjoy

Engagement: Being interested in your activity and creating connections with others

Meaning: Feeling like what you do/have done makes a difference

There are two types of happiness

  1. Eudaimen well being – happiness that is connecte toa sense of purpouse or life meaning
  2. Hedenic well being – happiness that comes from self gratification. No purpouse just a response to a stimuls or behaviou

Whatever you are seeing it can be found. There is a old saying “Where attention goes energy flows”. When we are elated our body makes energy from the excitement so we can find more. Plain and simple acting happy will make you happy. Accorind to the Dalhi Lama there are six keys to keep to find happiness.

  1. Being Thanful – Happiness is not tangebale. It comes from you and your actions
  2. Rising above anger & hatred – Anger is your u;timate obstacle. It will destroy your own piece of mind
  3. Conquering Negative Thoughts – The real hero is the one that can move past his own anger and hatred
  4. Compassion: Our main purpouse in this life is to help. others. If you cant help them at least don’t harm them
  5. Getting in touch with spirituality when we get in touch wit our spiritual side we can discover the great happiness we have inside ourselves
  6. Shifting your perspective – Optomism has you look at situations and others optimistically allowing you to understand, mayb e ease some of the frustration and enjoy your peace. Everyone should wake up daily, strive to be there best. Share their talents and show gratiude for them. Pay it forward when you can. And always view your cup half full. Remember its a state of mind. All you have to do is want it and work for it We have the right to pursue happiness; meaning “YOU” have the right to create it for yourself. No where does it say you should be happy, or have the right to be happy. It just states you and you alone can have a mindset to be happy. Only you know if you want a life of happiness or if you are content with happy momens. Everyone is unique so there is no wrong choice to make. Whatever works for you.

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ETHICS

JANUARY 25th 2023

Moral: What you decide you will or won’t do
Value: Worth of something and the impact it will have on you


Morals can be swayed by your surroundings (people and things). Studies have shown proof your enviroment can change your morals and values.
MORAL’S matched with VALUE’S
1)Responsibility – Help Others
1)Power – Capability
2)Compassion – Love for All
2) Loyalty and Compassion for others without worry of nationality or allegiances
3)Generosity – Pay it forward
3)Stimulation – The act of desire, interest or exhileration
4)Grattitude – Cooperation
4)Tradition – Being passed on in a certain way
5)Honesty – Be Brave
5)Self – Direction – Thinking for yourself instead of following others
6)Hard Work – Learn from Superiors
6)Achievment – Something completed succesfully. Usually with great effort, courage or skill
7)Kindness – Divide your resources fairly
7)Benevolance – Kindness
8)Respect – Do yourself right and others
8)Conformity – Behaviour in accordance with socially acceptable compliance with rules and laws

These definitions were pulled from the web page of the University of Oxfords (www.ox.ac.uk) Story Title: Seven Moral rules found all around the world. Universal Morals that coincide with the 10 Basic Values (according to http://www.frontier.in.org). Only eight of the ten are listed above. The last two have no equal. They stand alone and can’t be done in unison. They are dissonant. Lacking harmony, clashing, unusual in combination. With one in play the other can not be done. Number Nine is Hedonism; self indulgence. Number Ten is Security; free from danger or threat. If you choose self indulgence you will never be free from fear or threats. http://www.huffpost.com states the five main values of life are:


VALUE OPPOSITE OF
⦁ INTEGRITY DIS – HONESTY
⦁ ACCOUNTABILITY CARELESSNESS
⦁ PERSERVERENCE IRRESOLUTION
⦁ DISCIPLINE NON – DISCIPLINE


All of which equal dedication and education. Knowledge is power. To keep knowledge takes dedication and education. When in doubt of what to do, do your best at being you. When all else fails refer to the Ten Commandments (KJV) found in Exodus 20: 2-17 & Deuteronomy 5: 6-21.
1) You should have no other God’s before me.
All God asks from us is to take care of self and show kindness to all. Don’t confuse this with being used. You can love other things, just not more than you love ourselves. If you follow this rule nothing can be put before God.
2) You shall not make Idols
Again if you are doing what we disscussed in #1……
3) You shall not take the Lord’s name in vain.
Self explanatory
4) Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy.
Self explanatory
5) Honor your father and mother.
Don’t confuse honor; high respect, with obeying. These are two different things.
6) You shall not murder
Self explanatory
7) You shall not commit adultry
Self explanatory
8) You shall not steal
Self explanatory
9) You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.
Don’t do wrong to others. Treat every situation with a good heart and an open but cautious mind.
10) You shall not covet (want to posses or have).
Be thankful for what God has provided you with and honor him by sharing it with others instead of being unhappy with what you don’t have.
*Keep in mind that the Ten Commandments were in the old testament. Jesus died on the cross for us because it was known we were a creation with faults. I think the Commandments are a good byline but not to be “set in stone” per say after the new testament. If you do your best daily and make your choices with a greatfull heart you will have done what God has asked of you. Be the best person you can be and use your time wisely while permitted to be on this earth. If you can do that and overcome hidonism you will gain the security you are seeking.

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