WHAT DOES SELF CARE MEAN TO YOU?

When you hear someone mention self care, what comes to mind? What does self care look like to you? Getting to finish a good book, lunch with a friend, A shopping trip, a spa day or maybe a mini vacation? Whatever it is you do to bring you back to your center. The only person who knows the answer is to what your recharge activity is is you. That thing you do that gives you that feeling of excitement and exhiliration that if you could feel that feeling everday you could deal with this thing called life. Allowing mind, body and soul to come back in allignment. That’s self care. It’s a must, not optional. Without it you get burnt out and usually give in, causing misery. How often you need self care is completely up to you and your pshyci. Alone or with others, up to you. You are the only person who knows when your soul is truly satisfied and whats needed to accomplish it. It would be unrealistic to say everyday will be euphoric. What you can however have is a content feeling routinly. Meaning peace can be a part of your daily exsistence. You wil love life, want to wake up and take part in it. Front and center eager to lesrn all it’s willing to offer. Yes the gung ho goes away occasionaly. Realisticly you are not always going to be able to recharge right away. Knowing the recharge is coming is usually just enough to keep sain until you can. It gives you that reason to keep moving forward. Most often when you talk about self care people think of things that cost money and must be prepared and planned., but not neccesarily. If you have the time and the fundage than blessed be you. Majority of people do not have the extra time or money. Leaving them feeling as though they never reach 100%. In all honesty it can be as simple as a bath/shower alone, connect with nature and take a walk, sit outside, medditation, excercise, a phone call, a good movie, prayer, nap. Just to name a few. Self care is part of your hygiene. It is not someting you can ignore and say you will get to later. The consequences are to cartastrophic to you and the ones arouond you,. The number one goal you should achieve during your self care time is focusing on being in the moment. This was when you need to pull it from your memory bank to help you get through to the next self care session it will be vivid and life like. Remeber every smell, color, sound, anything that made you smile, laugh or just felt good. Admire how blessed you are and give thanks for it. Doing this regularly can make the most unbearable life worth getting up and participating in. When you find a inner happiness with life it makes it difficult to see things in a negative way. Causing you to be more valuable to yourself. When you value yourself enough to take care of yourself the more you will value your worth and how you use your time.

119 DAYS INTO THE STAY WITH MOM. She is doing much better. Still getting some test ran to be safe. It takes time to get answers. Patience has surely became our friend. God has an amazing plan for us. In his time he will reveal it. At this moment everyones attention and time is on the upcoming nuptuails. Only 8 more days left to go.

TOMMOROW’S NEVER BEEN A GUARANTEE

Usually I would have stopped my blog completely, shut it down. When i start these phases i know i can’t give 100%. After i get my composure and am back on a good track i feel like a quitter. Instead of starting back up where i stopped i convince myself usining the hypothosis i will just stop again the next rough spot i hit. I know it’s a crutch and not any kind of solution worthy of my time. There was a time i didn’t know that but now that i do i have to do better. So this time i vowed to continue to do the best i could. While sharing the experience with you along the way. The good , the bad , and the ugly. I’ts obviouos by my hiatuses there has been quite a bit of ugly. Proving that postive people on a growing journey, struggle just like everyone else. We get challenged and waiver. When we start a new beggining we have to learn the way before we are steady enough to exlpore and survive alone again. We just view the experience different. Using the stones and boulders to make our foundation stronger and our rise up higher. Everyone has different issues they have to overcome. Mine is not depression praise God. I have been there. Mine is just struggling to find my place still. Making it harder to trust my decisions and not second guess mysef. I know this is a routine part of moving to the next phase, but knowing doesn’t make the process easier. It just gives you the experience to know what’s on the other side, the outcome. When you enter a new phase in your life you get butterflies from the unknowing ahead. You know the kind that you like but have a touch of spooky that comes with them. That feeling you get when you are reading a great book and you can’t turn the page fast enough to see what’s coming next. What matters is if you allow your doubts to set in or if you shake them off by changing your mind set. Allowing you and only you dictate what happens next. i have found my spare time being filled with (other than the normal necessities) our second sons wedding ( November 4th) and the book. My next goal is to incorporate and update you back into my scheadule. I’m working back towards a pattern where im back sharing the knowledge of why literature is a major factor in stretching your horizons. Offering you continued growth always. Along with a encouraging post or two. I would love to hear from you. Share your feedback on what has and hasn’t worked for you. How does your journey look and feel since our paths crossed? You can always reach me at BrokenWingSociety@mail.com. This would help me greatly for choosing my next book by using the information you share. Life is a roller coaster. The exhileration of the up and down it provides. You want the down swoops as brief and quick as possible. The climbs to take a bit so syou can enjoy it and your surroundings. Of course the decent. The decent you know will be quick but you don’t want it to be to quick you will forget it or the feeling it brings. You want to enjoy the wind taking your breath away blowing your skin back. Without the decent you can’t have the rush of the climb. Isn’t that what the whole ride is about? The excitement of the rise and the feeling . of not wanting it to end. All the while secretly having to remind yourself over and over (mindset) you’ll be fine when the downslope comes. You remind yourself to breath after the drop and eventually take in the thrill. Counting your blessings on the rise and seeing what you hadn’t seen before. Once you choose to accept you exsist in a place where tomorrow never been a guarantee. You will find your decision making leaving you with a lot more memorable yesterdays. Take a deep breath, remind yourself your okay. You got this. Open your eyes as wide as you can and take as much as you can in. Feel the wind on your face and enjoy every second of the ride. The good, the bad, and the ugly. Learn from it and share it everytime you feel led.

116 Days into our transistion with mom – coming up on 4 months – the light at the end of the tunnell should be come clear soon. Ready to know where we will be going and how much we can do to make her comftorable with us.

October 24th 2022 – 11 Days until the Wedding

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Pre Written 10-10-2022

IT’S THE OUTCOME THAT MAKES ALL THE DIFFERENCE

It’s already the tenth of the month. Not to mention we are on the tenth month of the year. Are you where you projected you would be? Somewhere better? Maybe this year switched up your whole exsistence. Growing and learning through the struggles. Through my journey i have had experiences and epiphanies that have reminded me that there is always room for growth if you are open minded. I can say proudly this challenge came with its fair share of struggles between flesh and soul. Soul won obviously. But more times than i expected i entertained giving up and giving in. Thankfully i have the knowledge to know the unhealthiness of that decision and the tools to switch my mindset when the negative energy arose. It didn’t make the struggle any easier, but sure did make a huge difference in the outcome. Isn’t the outcome what the whole point is. The result that brings you to your next beggining. Keep you faith strong and when doubt creeps in pray and then praise him for whats coming. Reminder there is always a positive.

I GOT A LITTLE BUSY WORKING ON MY BOOK

Here’s a little sneak peak at part of the first chapter. IT’S IN THE RAISIN

From the time you entered this world you were surrounded by influences. You had a specific enviroment and culture you were brought up with. You had adults and peers with beliefs and values you learned to mimick and they became learned traits. Well before you even knew you were deciding, you were forming who you would be as an adult. Why is this important? This is important because parents are people who came from their own set of parents with demons. These tend to get passed down from generation to generation. If its all you know then its what you will do. You wouldn’t have any way to know that its not healthy because it is all you have known. As you get older and broaden your social and educational life and start to see and began to feel you might need to change a few things. Making changes is natrual and is in no way dissrespectfull to your elders. On the contrary it is one of the best gifts you can give yourself and those around you. As you grew up you learned how to “be”. You were molded. When you were growing up if you felt heard, loved, validated and encouraged to voice your opinon. Knowing it was taken into consideration when you did. Had guidance but were allowed room to makie your own decisions/mistakes you probably have a decent self of value. You probably are a Person Pleaser, You put self first and share if you have anything left. M any parents didn’t have the skills to know how to emotionaly raise children. Not feeling loved, validated, imporant/included, knew to be seen and not heard makes you an adult who has issues handling conflict and adult decisions. This type of youth leaves little to no self confidence. Leaving you feeling as if you have little to no value. You teach people how to treat you and the choices you make depend on how you percieve yourself. These are People Pleasers. You will use every bit of your energy and time to make sure everyone around you is happy. Ensuring you won’t be because you have no time for you. However you have the ability to change your boundaries and become a Person Pleaser and put you above everything and everyone else. As we make our way out in the world and educate ourselves eventually our soul give us that uneasy feeling when we know a change is needed. Staying in one place causess one to become stagnant. Stagnant is not good for anything. It’s being stuck. Life has to be lived and you must evolve and adapt as you enjoy the ride. Remeber if it doesn’t make you a little anxious you probably need a more challenging goal. Let go of all fear/doubt and listen to your soul. Trust in your higher power and believe in yourself as you move forward, This is where you start to recieive your blessings.
Proverbs 3: 5-6
5) Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.
6) In all your ways submit to him and he will maie your paths straight.
Follow the commands of God and be obediant and wiith good cheer when you do. The biggest obstacle to recieving all the blessings God has prepared for you is to lose your doubts and fears and trust the process.

98 DAYS IN THE TRANSITION WITH MOM

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THE CONNECTION BETWEEN SPIRITUALITY AND PEACE

Happiness is an emotion not a thing. It can not be held or seen only felt. A state of mind. Something you have to work at to have. Spirituality and Self Empowerment are the two main ingredients needed to move forward on your journey for peace. A belief in a higher power and a belief in self. This is doable and can be started right now. All you need is you. The only thing standing between you and true bliss is you! Start with positive affirmations. Stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself I am strong, I am worthy, i am valuable, i am important. i like to do mine before meditation, but this can be done anytime. As long as it gets done. Retraining your brain consists of being ready for a lifestyle makeover. To recieve happiness you must accept accountability. Do your affirmatiolns daily and eventually you will realize it has become a comfortable part of your daily routine. You will know when you truly believe it. Enjoy the Dance.

WHAT MAKES YOU WORTHY?

Are you worth it? What makes you worthy? Most of us seek the answer to this from others. The real blessings come when you can answer this question better than anyone else. We have all been created uniquely. But clumps of us have the same personality. Some of us are good listners, Organizers, Go
Betweens – middle man , Nifty with your hands – crafty/mechanical, musical, artistic. Whatever it is about you that you bring to the table. That “thing” that brings a smile to a face. Your skills, thats where you will find and feel your worth. Refine it, Embrace it, Fine Tune it and Own it. Share! Share all you have learned as often as the opportunity arises. That smile not only makes others feel good, it makes you feel pretty amazing as well. Did you know the minute those endorphines hit your veins you mind immediately starts trying to recreate that feeling. You don’t even get a second to realize whats happening and the moment surely hasn’t subsided. You have to retrain your brain to savor the process, soak it in, feel the pride and view your accomplishment for what it is an accomplishment. Make sure you have felt every bit of it before you move on and share again. Thats the key. Sharing , but not forgetting you teach people how to treat you. Themore you give the more that will be taken. Leave the best for you, share the rest.

88 days in to this transition with mom

Health wise mom is doing great. Her desire for change however has settled a bit for now. We are making it work as difficult as it can get. Family is the one thing you push those limits for.

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Who’s In Your Circle

We have discussed where you focus energy and the importance of. Your childhood and how it helped shape the person you are. Attitude, evolving, adapting, faith, struggles, confidence. What makes you live and not meerly exsist. Making the unexpected work for you and finding inner peace. Lets take it a step further and talk about who’s in your circle. Who you keep as constants in your life. Your support and grow with group. Why do they have the honor of being a part of it with you? Is the relationship helpful or harmful? I know you have heard/seen the quote ” You become what you surround yourself with. Energies are contagious. Choose carefully. Your enviroment will become you”. It can’t be put in more lamens terms. You are what you surround yourself with. We’re not talking about co-workers or the people you see at PTA. We are talking that small circle that you keep close. The ones you have good rapport with. So lets observe the obvious. If you have low self-esteem, lack pride in appearance and work ethic you are oozing negativity out of every pore. This will be your circle. Negative energy (that nobody needs), low self-esteem causing a lack of self confidence (so they can’t help you find yours) and no drive ( like attracts like). Yes people who have found their worth and believe in themselves will occasionally come into your circle. After a while their spirit will become to restless for them to stay. They know the only way to switch your negativity to positive is you. If you aren’t in the phase of change then they will have to move on. They can’t risk getting stuck in your enviroment again. They know how prominent the powerf of energy and thoughts are. They know what it’s like to truly live. Anyone who has overcame their demons and found this bliss won’t give it up for anyone. Let’s say you loose every close person you have. You end up with a spell completely alone. Embrace it. It will take a minute . Remind yourself it is better to have a learning/growing season without a circle than it is to have a stagnant circle breeding one anothers negativity. If you haven’t already you will soon see we are fully responsible for what our exsistence is and have (almost) complete control over it. Think back on a time you got a new pair of shoes, handbag or outfit you had been wanting. All of the sudden it seems everyone around you had the same idea. What about when you decided to have a baby. It seemed like someone had let the baby parade go. You saw babies everywhere. They were always there they just weren’t prelevant to your pshyci until now. We call in everything we recieve whether we admit it or not. Take time and observe your circle. Remind yourself when you doubt moving forward that you are not helping them either by keeping the relationship. Choose wisely.

70 Days in to transitioning with mom

It’s getting better. I have to remind myself this is her home and she has lived alone in it for decades. Keep respect yet know my adult worth and expect it. Yes even from my mother. Working on putting my (new) routine with the old and maintaining until it becomes a habit. Life will never be easy but it is definetly worth the blessings.

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FINDING YOUR INNER PEACE

Finding your inner peace usually brings challenging circumstances. This is another time to remind yourself everyone won’t be satisfied. You have to push through those pesky emotions and put you first. You don ‘t want to stand before God and say but i helped and i raised. Or work wore me out, i just didn’t have the time. The response will be you had plenty of time you choose to use it in other ways. Take care of and work on you. Whatever is left by all means share and help others. Your old ways are going to sneak up as often as they can and try to reclaim their old familure place. You litterally have to look in the mirror and say as believably as if you were telling a friend, I AM WORTHY! You are worthy of that space to yourself when you need it. Not when it can get jammed in. No Guilt! That defeats the whole purpouse. Push through, stay focused and positive. It’s the only way to grow. You have to grow to continue to feel excitement and happiness. Maybe you stay up a little later. As long as it’s occasionally and not habitual most things are acceptable. Always put yourself in someone elses shoes before making decisions. This means you to. Think of your feelings, dreams and needs as you do everyone else. Things will look completely different.

72 days into the transition with mom

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No More Fear:

Steps To Permanently Remove Fear From Your Life

Proverbs 3:5-6:

  1. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.
  2. .in all your ways submit to him and he will make your paths straight

When we don’t trust his process/plans with all our heart. If we work through eyes of flesh instead of eyes of faith. Then we are submitting to the will of God. In no way can we trust him when we have the mindset. That small kernell of fear says you doubt what God