There is a lot to do when you are buying/selling a home. Checking things, fixing things, testing things. As fast as all this has come at us we have been understanding and respectful with it all. Today was the day that changed. You teach people how to treat you. Most once given permission for one thing the human in us keeps us trying until we stop it. My boundaries had to come up. Two hours notice that an appraiser would be arriving in two hours. That kitchen timer dinged in my head and that inner voice said oh see this ends now. The appraiser will be coming Monday at four. And my Grandmiracle danced beautifuly at her dress rehearsel, that i was not going to miss. You are the only person who knows what you want and can stand up for it. Don’t abuse it just don’t give others permission to abuse you either. I already can forsee me exhibitng boundaries a few times in the next month.

Boundaries create Happiness

Happiness creates calmness

Calmness creates peace

It is a must to constantly evaluate your self worth and own it. This allows you to create boundaries that benefit you, not others.

Today I am proud that i set a boundary. I got eight more boxes packed. Would have got more but that time with my man was needed.

What i’m excited to get up for? Night out with a friend and my grandmiracle all weekend. It’s the start of summer an just as we would before we are going to celebrate!

What are you proud of and excited for?

42 Days Left

Waking up with a peace and excited for what lies ahead leaves a calming like no other. It is especially wonderful during a trying time. There will always be drama and trauma. Once you realize worry changes nothing but positivity changes everything.

Going over your blessings and accomplishments before bed is one thing that helps. Putting what you are excited about doing the next day beside your bed where its the first thing you see when you wake up. If you work at it before you know it it will be a new habit.

A blessing could be as simple as:

*I got another day

*I have family/friends – I am important and cared for

*I am Intelligent

*I am kind ( in a cruel world) 2 points for that one

A few things I get excited about waking up for:

*I volunteer at a ranch so that excites me

*Maybe a new recipe im going to try that night

*Lunch with a friend

*A movie/show that i had been waiting for

*Of couse date and game nights

It’s whatever motivates you and makes you feel proud of yourself.

Tonight i will go to bed thankful for another day in our home. Blessed i enjoyed time on the lake while i wrote this. I packed all the boxes i had. I’m proud of myself for these things. What am i excited about for tomorrow? My husband and i have a date and i’m gonna boss the packing!

43 Days Left

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I have felt the flesh trying to sneak doubt in. Thats when i remind myself past experiences God has gotten me out of and landed us in a better place then where we were for what was happening in our lives. I have no room for doubt.

Faith is the only way to recieve the blessngs God has for you. I trust him no matter what it looks like. As long as i am a good and faithful servant he has never let me down.

As we have talked about we have a responsibility to look out for ourseleves.

I am looking for rentals and i have a realtor looking. I have specific things im looking for. .When God is ready to show the right place for us i will feel it. I also know not to settle because he will give me the desire of my heart. In return i will be loyal ane keep my energy positive..

I will keep you posted

Steps To Permanetly Removing Fear From Your Life

Proverbs 3:5-6 Says:

1. Trust in the Lord with a;; your heart and lean not on yor own understanding.
2. In all your ways submit to him and he will make yourb paths straight.

When we don’t trust his process/plans with all our heart. If we look through eyes of flesh instead of eyes of faith we are not submitting to the will of God. It’s impossible to trust God when we are in this mindset. That small kernell of fear screams you doubt what God can accomplish. When you do conquer your fear and become an obediant and faithful servent he will return your losses 10 fold and you will land exactly where you are supposed to be.

The Miriam-Webster Dictionary’s Definition for Obedience states::

a) an act or instance of obeying

b) the quaility or state of being obedient

Obey:

To follow the commands or guidance of

in this case follow the commands of God and be obedient and with good cheer when you do. The biggest obstacle to recieving all the blessings God has prepared for you is to lose the doubt and fear. This short but powerful read by Author Sigma S.. Smith, “No More Fear: To Permanently Removing Fear From Your Life..” is going to help you do just that. Using personal examples, scriptures and acronyms. This book takes you step by step through a guaranteed process. You will learn what fear is and why we have it. Touching on the relationship fear and love have, When you are done with this book you will know exactly the importance of releasing all fear from your life and the steps to eliminate it forever.

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I apologize for my hiatus. Refocusing was needed. Outcome is i have a personal experiece i am going to share. I am going to share my situation, how i decide to figure it out and what the end result winds up being. A human example in real time.

I was given six weeks to vacate my home of six years. The owners grandsons moving in. i will say the first initial shock knocked my energy off balance for a minute. I am human so every opening for doubt and darkness will be takien intantly. What makes the difference is if you invite it in. My light shines to briight that they try but I know my worth. I’m graced by God.

First I prayed, then meditated ( a lot ). I just knew i was in the right place (never get to comftorable if you aren’t willing to adapt when the time is right.). Usually when we get in the constant zone is when the change surprises us most. There is nothng that says you’re going to always enjoy lifes situations. Most of the times it requires you to make choices that cause worry. My answer was you know better than to worry and stay positive. Faith, Hope and Belief in both.

Second i did and will contiinue to trust with my faith that God has promised if he brings me too it he will bring me through it. Providing exactly what i need for what he has in store for my next chapter. I will follow his guidance. Right now i truly have a peace. It’s scary but i am also excited to see what is in store for me next. He hasn’t let me down yet. I will look for homes for rent and ask friends and family to look also. I will way my pros and cons before i choose. Most of all i will be thankful for the new that is coming. I will be grateful for the six blessed years we had in our home. The friendships we made. The nights we got to enjoy on the lake. These are blessed memories i get to keep.

To be in this mind space I had to adapt. Websters definition of Adapt: To change behavior so that it is easier to function in a particular place or situation.

What better way is there to change your behavior to functon easier than to stay positive and focus on blessings. This is now at the top of my daily to do list.

The reason this is happening is out of my control. Anything out of my control is in Gods. I will embrace the change and find something positive about it. And i am excited to get to share with you.

We all grew up with what we considered family. This family had you around and taught you a certain lifestyle. During this time you were also making important decisions about your future. Growing up if you felt heard, loved, validated, encouraged to voice your opinion, had guidance but were allowed room to make your own decisions you probably have a decent sense of your value. This doesn’t mean your beliefs weren’t tainted. No childhood is without issues. Most come with generational chains that they become another link on. If you grew up and didn’t feel loved, validated, knew to be seen but not heard you probably found yourself in an adult situaition that you had no idea how to handle correctly. This kind of youth tends to leave little to no confidence into adulthhood. Therefore teaching you your value was little to none. You teach people how to treat you and that is based on how you percieve yourself. It’s not easy but changing the way you think will allow you to find your happy. You deserve it.

We’ve covered the importance of daily positivity. How your childhood tainted who you became. Questioned if you are living to Gods will or your desire to fix/control. That if you choose to be negtative you will recieve negative. Scriptures to back all of it up. Understanding when you have knowledge you must apply it. The need for having a kind dialouge with yourself.. To acomplish all of this and more you must have confidence. A healthy self esteem. Not arrogance but attitude. Knowing your value and commanding others to know it as well. You should be feeling the energy shifting. If you have been journaling or just been giving it your all its time to go back and review. Look at how far you have come. Take time to be proud of youself. You have earned it!

If you’re in search of a calm life that you are in control of. Making you able to face every day with confidence, then this is the book for you, “Stop Overthinking: 23 techniques to Relieve Stress, Stop Negative Spirals, Declutter your mind, and focus on the present”. This 188 page book, written by acclaimed author Nick Trenton, origanally published March 2, 2021 is filled with medical stats, learning techniques, ideas and practicle concrete examples how to incoparate them into your life. Training your brain for positivity, Your feelings have nothing to do with what happens, but more so how you think about what happens. Reiterating when you change the way you feel it changes how you see the world. Showing you do have the cotrol to implemenet this into your daily life. Demostrating anxiety and overthinking are partly genetic, but the biggest makeup is life events and enviromental stresses that make you most vulnerable. Posing the questions: What are your daily habits? Is your self-esteem in good order? What about boundaries? Opening your mind to a good place with these questions to a good head space where mind and soul merge. Allowing you to strengthen your sense of control and empowerment, of generating hope and excitement rather than living in fear of taking control of stress and steering your life instead of feeling like its steering you. This book will leave you with all the tools you need to break free of your self-imposed mental prison.

Are you a empty nester? Did retirement catch you off guard more than you expected? Graduated, divorced, maybe suffered a major loss? All and many more can set you on a path to a new purpouse. Why you have been propelled into a healing transition is no where near as crucial as where you land after and what you do with it all when you get there. The hardest and most vital part of this proccess is Positivity. This can’t be emphasized enough. Its the solid foundation that builds success and pride. Once you can focus all your energy into being and seeing positive your view on life will change. You feel different. Making it difficult to suppress your desires. The stagnet phase ends and the exsistence you have dreamed of will slowly evolve.

I think we can agree that your home life, acquaintances and environment during your youth were the backbone of most the choices you have made up to now. It’s likely your parent(s)/caregiver(s) shared a sickness with you. Something destructive from their childhood they brought into your relationship. Maybe even passed it on to you. When your childhood is traumatic or dramatic it’s easy as we grow to become bitter and begin to focus on the negative parts of life. Instead of staying stuck on the negative replay see if you can redirect your focus and energy on the positives from now and then. You may have to search outside your immediate family. Friend, co-worker, teacher, acquaintances. Possibly even a one time encounter with a stranger that made a impression. These are the things you need to put your focus towards to start you on the path to a healing transformation. Mama always said practice makes perfect (her mama probably said it to her). The more you exercise this choice the faster it will become another daily habit. On this path you will start to learn that like you your parents are people first and foremost. Every person has a what if. Most of us have a few. Realizing this makes it a bit easier to put youself in their shoes and maybe forgive. Not forget these are two different things. The best part of this journey is when you start to become friends with your younger self again. Creating unison with mind and soul. Thus allowing your desires to resurface. This is how you move forward. The only person that knows what that looks like is you. Just remember while on this journey, really any journey, always leave some time for any forgivness you owe youself.