Have you ever felt like your mom was in the room when you spoke? Walked by a mirror and caught a glimpse of her. Chilling you to your core because you have worked so hard to not be her.

Know matter what kind of a mother you grew with and ended up wounded, but not ruined. This book “Mothers Who Can’t Love” , authored by two ladies Donna Frazier Glynn & Susan Forward, Can help. It touches on the mother who worked hard to keep up appearences and even harder to make sure you did the same. Alcholic, drug addicted, bully, over emmeshed in your life, even the narrrsasitic mom. All these and more are covered in this book. It offers real life situations showing how she empacted your growing and effected you not only then but now as well. Including the flip side with examples of how mom reacted to guarantee you get both sides. Solidifying clarity on which mother you had.

Once you have completed this and know the mother you had they move you on to helping you understand how to break this cycle. Giving you your own life not your moms. Giving tips on how to find a therapist that best fits to help your needs. Continuing by offering you exercises to help you build confidence for when those difficult conversations about boundaries take place. You will close this book having a clearer understanding why your mom couldn’t love you . Teaching you that her actions had nothing to do with how amazing you were and are. Showing you it was her childhood demons she brought into your relationship.

This book makes it easier to forgive. Leaving you with a base realization that you are in control of who you become.

Amazon has it in Hardcover for $21.81 & Paperback for $10.79
Walmart – $17.99
I purchased this book from Kindle for $12.99

It’s been proven happiness is important in our survival. The only way to recieve it is a positive attitude and God combined. Just like mind and soul needing to be in unison, so do these.

We have looked at scripture that proves if you choose a negative exsistance you will have a negative life. But if you choose the positive path daily, positivity is what you will recieve. This doesn’t mean you will never have another devastating or aggravating situation ever again. The difference will be you won’t be viewing the issue the same anymore.

We all want to live healthy and happy lives. For the most part I think we do. The Bible refers to your body as a temple, a blessing to care for and treasure. It also said he knew we would not be without sin. If we do the best we can daily and treat others the way we want to be treated. Doing all we do with his guidance and a good heart, I think he is satisfied. Health and faith however are pretty explanatory. Mama always said “When you know better you have to do better”. With that in mind the scripture says:

1 Corinthians: NIV

So whatever you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do everything for the Glory of God.

Galatians 5:22-23 NASB

But the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.

Proverbs 3:7-8 KJV

Be not wise in your eyes, fear the Lord and turn away from evil; this will mean health for your flesh and vigor for your bones.

It is clear how we think, act, eat, drink, anything you do effects you. On top of being positive this week start looking at your daily choices. Why do you make them? How do they make you feel? What drives you to make them? What else are you inspired to do?

We looked at the book “Boundaries”. The title speaks for itself. Covered the importance of a positive attitude in all you do. Making sure you are the only one who has control over where your energy goes. Understanding how our childhool an adulthood are intertwined and what it all means. When your mind and soul aren’t insink you open yourself up for struggles. It will effect your mental and physical health. Stifling you, at times for years, causing all confidence to be lost. I’ve added scripture to confirm. The first thing that should be done is master 24/7 positivity, Once this is started simutaneousloy your confidence in self will grow. Spend one week doing this and see the difference it makes. If you find yourself having a hard time being positive don’t stress it. Many others do as well. Practice, practice, practice and remind yourself every day is a fresh start.

{When to say yes. How to say no. To take control of your life}

This book is summed up with its one word title. Boundaries, written by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend, is for anyone wanting to understand more about and learn how to set boundaries. Using scripture you navigate through physical, mental, and emotional boundaries. Whether it be a parent, sibling, friend, spouse, chid or coworker you struggle being honest and saying no to, they have you covered in this book. Teaches you how to buid confidence. Tips on learning how to know your opinion is valuable. Also touches on how to deal with confrontation when it arises. Reminds you the other persons anger is their feeling. Why you shoudn’t rescue them from it. They have a different way to look at boundries. The doctors put the focus toward having you put yourself as the problem thus allowing you to be able to then identify your boundaries. Using you as “Your Property”. Showing you great ways to set boundries on “Your Property” to keep it safe and habitable. Interesting Views on boundaries. Thought provoking points.

Long read: 301 Pages but worth it.

Can be purchased on Thriftbooks.com used for 4.99 Walmart.com: $6.29 (workbook – $34.28) Amazon.com: $12.99

Happiness is created by mind and soul being of one accord. It can not be found. The Bible states:

Proverbs 15: 13 – A happy heart makes a cheerful face, but by sorrow of the heart the spirit is crushed.

Isaiah 12:3 – With joy you will draw water from the wells of salvation.

Proverbs 17:22 – A joyful heart is good medicine but a crushed spirit dries up bones.

There is said to be 163 versus that refer to happines in the KJV Bible*

Your heart must be happy for your mind and soul to be filled with peace. It is clear the path you must take to get there is joy. Complete joy in all you see, say an do. Each day gives you a fresh opportunity to do just that.

Maybe you are working extra and personal time is low. You have job security.

The house is a mess, dinners not started and the kids have drove you mad. You have a home, food and healthy vibrant children.

Your car has broke down. You have a car to have worries over.

There is always a positive for every negative. Once you flip your mindset things will not only look but feel different. This is the day that the Lord hath made. Let us thank him by being glad in it.

He has Risen, so can you. Happy Easter from our home to yours.

*stillfaith.com

Mental Health became prelavent in the 70’s. In the 90’s it realized children benifited from therhapy as well as adults. Mental Health Awarness week started jn 2000. Today one in five (20%) of americans suffer with some sort of diagnosible mental illness.* There is approximately one death every 12 minutes due to mental health. Combined making a total of 123 suicides per day.* And we discuss our feelings unlike our parents generation.

Most parents are good people working hard at being their best. Growing up, becoming adults, making that money so life can go round. Many with little to no mental health skills making it impossible for them to be good examples for us. Focusing on what they wish they had instead of what they did. Sound Famiiar? Do you find yourself repeating the cycle? Most of us do.

When we don’t allow our dreams to become realities dissapointment in self takes root and pushes itself into every aspect of our being. Eventually causing resentment to others who did create theirs. Not comprehending your only obstacle is you. When you get down negativity creeps in and takes complete control. Making you feel like you have nothing left in you. YOU DON’T! The sullen mood depletes ALL energy sources.

Now stay with me a minute. What if it could be different? If you set some goals and keep them. Believe in yourself and start letting that confidence grow. Your whole world can change. When we search for the positive, in all things, we switch the energy. Sending out and seeking the positive makes it easier to keep your soul satisfied. It also holds “you” accountable for your life. Try it for a week. I guarantee it will be different.

*mentalhealth.org & defeatesuicide.com

Have you ever really looked at the mementos you have collected? Things to someone else wouldn’t seem like much. To you it holds a vital meaning. A memory that is very likely connected to your past and has helped create who you are today.

Childhood molds us. The rest is filler. We all had people and things we admired. Things we used for fillers. As we grow our circle gets bigger and we pick even more things we like as fillers. We also realize there is no magic book for adults. Doing our best daily but we all are wingin it.

Jesus died on the cross for our sins. We (people) have flaws. The blessing is we have the ability to listen to our spirit. This allowing you not just a blessed life but also a bliss life. It’s not a easy task to keep the flesh seperate from the soul. A strong foundation of confidence is needed to keep energy positive enough to have a peaceful and happy life.

Failure on some level is inevitable, we are flawed. Without dissapointments we wouldn’t be able to experience the fullfilment of succes. The key is to be a person pleaser (person who looks after selfs happiness and gives whats left) instead of a people pleaser (person who uses all their energy on others happiness instead of working on themself making true happiness obsolete ).

The key is to come out to the good more than you come out to the bad. Have pride no matter the outcome. NO Regrets! The way you view your days are what life will give you back.

Are you a people pleaser or a person pleaser?

Where do you put your energy?

How positive are your words and thoughts?

Daily positivity is as vital to your exsistence as excercise and eating right.
There must be a balance between our mental and physical before we can find our Nirvana. If body and soul have a disconnect things may work for a minute but misfires eventually will start. No different than watching that weight come back after a crash diet. Struggling in life and you look around and everything is struggling. Your energy and attitude control your happiness. You control your energy and attitude. Where are you focusing your energy?

Starting Monday i will leave a self help book review every two weeks. Giving you options to help you find the best way to connect your mind and body. Allowing you to experience how changing the way you view something can make all the difference in your world.